Embracing Your Accent; WHOse YOU ARE

Can the people around me hear my accent?

Would they even ask who I am/who I belong too?

If they ask, will I be honest?

After a little while, those standing went up to Peter and said, "Surely you are one of them; your accent gives you away." Matthew 26:73

Accent: a way of speaking typical of a particular group of people (webster-meriam.com)

For those of us who follow Jesus, we will likely hear of Peter's Denial message again this week.  Peter denies the connection of his accent, denying Jesus three times on the night in which Jesus was arrested. 

As we reflect on our own walk with Jesus, we too have denied our accent and Jesus:

• in our thinking,
• in our conversations,
• in our actions and attitudes.

Scripture helps us deepen our accent:

• Confess your denial-to God and a brother or sister in Christ (I John 1:9, James 5:16)
• Receive God's forgiveness (Psalm 103:3)
• Be encouraged in discussing your accent with friends in Christ (Hebrews 10:24)
• Pray for inner strengthening and pray for others inner being (Eph. 3:16)
• Remain in Jesus (John 15:1-8)
• Live out our people group (1 Peter 2:9)

Everyday ways to embrace our accent:

• encourage someone with your words
• care for a hurting brother of sister in Christ (John 13:35)
• lend a hand to a family member (do the dishes, run an errand, listen to them)
• as the Holy Spirit urges you, speak of what Jesus means for you
• when asked-you are empowered by the Spirit to say, "Jesus as your Lord" (I Corinthians 12:3)

Living our accent in the world, not of the world:

 

As Christians, we live in this world and live in grace to not be of the world.  This does not mean we are to be Bible beaters, raging tempers against non-believers, or speaking truth with out love.  We are called to "lovingly speak the truth" (God's Word Eph. 4:15). 

Jesus forgives, restores and commissions us, as Peter (even after denying Him), to bring the message of HIS great love to the world. 

What's one way you can you speak your accent this week (on attitude, word, action, thought)?

How can you claim your accent this week (claim you know Jesus)?

GO LIVE OUT HIS ACCENT THAT BELONGS TO YOU!

This is a statement of what God's done and is doing in my life.  I speak with an accent that is by HIS grace. God's grace in JESUS is what sustains me daily.  In a broken world, Jesus life death and resurrection offers restoration to our Father in heaven.  His message of hope is a message like none other, for me and this world.  I'm restored and valuable to God not because of anything I've done, rather because of what He's done for me. May I live unashamed of the Good News of Jesus-not denying my accent!

Drop Your Approval Rating, Increase Authentic Relationships



"If you're your authentic self,

                            there is no competition."

                                                         Scott Stratton

Most of us appreciate people who are genuinely themselves.  My husband often asks me, "What do you love about that friend or person?" 

The answer almost always includes responses:

"They are themselves (or genuine)."

"They're comfortable in their own skin."

"They accept me for who I am."

Our desire to receive approval or acceptance is often a barrier to being authentic (psychologists and authors have written much on the subject of authenticity).  Most of us want to look good in action, speech and appearance.  We will trade our real/authentic selves for a higher approval rating, thinking people will like or love us more. 

The truth is to increase connection we need to be authentic, real, and honest AND allow others to be authentic, real and honest.  No one is perfect!  

Relationships deepen when we are ourselves. 

Some ways I practice being the real me: 



• share with a close friend that I feel vulnerable about   _______________
• share something I'm really excited about
• laugh at myself
• admit mistakes and apologize
• tell others who I am (experiences, abilities, passions)
• practice saying what's on my mind even when it's uncomfortable

Some ways I practice being a safe place for others to be real/authentic:

• being honest with my own struggles
• listening without judgment
• listening without fixing them
• discuss real life joys, challenges, hurts, growth
• keep their confidence

How do you practice being real and allowing others to be real?

What's one thing you can do this week to create authenticity in a current relationship or group? 

Your Next 26 Inches

YOUR NEXT 26 INCHES!

A couple of years ago, a good friend of mine wanted to hike a Colorado 14er @ Pike's Peak.  This was a birthday trek with a pack of friends. We started off the journey with laughter and conversation.  As the time and journey wore on, the talking lessened and the breathing increased (so did rest stops). 

We began to encourage each other in route with words like:  "go slow", "you're doing great", "drink some water/eat", "rest when you need it", "take 30 steps/rest 30", "one step at a time!"

One step at a time! The next single step kept the journey going!  Every step got us about 26 inches* closer to our goal of  14,110 ft.

You may not be climbing a 14er, yet it is likely you desire to make a destination in your life journey-either big or small.  Your next step keeps the journey going and you close in on your destination.

• A spiritual journey
• A physical goal
• A work goal
• A family goal
• Seeking Life Balance
• Seeking Purpose and Fulfillment
• Making a life transition
• Cleaning out your files
• Organizing the house
• Starting/Finishing a Project

Everyone in our 14er climb had control over their next step of 26 inches (maybe sometimes it was only a 6 inch step).  So, you and I are able to take the next step closer to the destination we desire. 

Reflect On-

• goal you started and want to complete?
• project to start or finish?
• a transition time to work through?
• personal growth desire?
• a project or goal you want to discontinue?

Outcome:

• What's your desired destination/growth/opportunity?
• How will you benefit from the journey and accomplishment?

Action:

• Set 2-3 doable steps (only 26inches!)
• Make the actions SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, relevant , time-based)**

STEP 26 MORE INCHES!

*The average step length is 26 inches, give or take a few inches.
**Sample SMART ACTION:  I will read the book Daring Greatly (specific/relevant/measurable) by March 15th (relevant/time-based).

P.S. I'm glad to tell you we all safely made it to the top of Pike's Peak.  Eleven hours after our start we completed the trek down to the parking lot.  Sometimes we need to stop or turn around when pursuing a destination....the idea is I/you/we take the next step!

Keep in Step with the Spirit

"If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit."  Galatians 5:25

As Christians, we are called to walk with the Spirit.  What does this mean?  The Greek origin helps me visualize the meaning of this scripture:  stoicheo' -walk in cadence, to keep in step*

When I was in high school I played flute in the marching band.  In preparation for a parade or a half-time performance at a football game, we had to learn how to "keep in step".  What was the beat?  What direction to turn and when?  Yes, we had to keep in step, as lead by our Drum Major's design.  How did we learn to do this (and play music at the same time)?

• We listened to the Drum Majors instruction
• We practiced marching in step
• We learned new skills (turns, scatters, pivots)
• We practiced more
• We built on learned steps to walk in new formations

When we are seeking to "keep in step" with the Spirit, the marching band list might be applied:

Listen
          -Read His word, What is He saying to you?
          -talk to fellow believers
          -Pray for direction and listen

Practice (real-life practice)
           -His word and leading steps
           -the direction you are being called to

Learn New Skills/Insights
          -Continue to learn from God and His word
          -Find Christian resources that are helpful
          -continue to discuss with fellow believers

Practice More (real-life practice)
          -each day ask God to lead you with HIS spirit
          -share the work God is doing in you, with trusted friends/coworkers
          -share your challenges in "keeping in step with the Spirit", with trusted friends/coworkers

Build on what you've already learned
          -ask the Holy Spirit to stretch and use what He's been teaching you

Walk in New Formations
           -continue to listen, practice/apply, learn new skills/insights, build on God's work in you

What helps you "keep in step" with the Spirit?
What new steps is God teaching you (or renewed steps?)?  New formations?
What do you want to do next to "walk in step with the Spirit"?


"And I am convinced and sure of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will continue until the day of Jesus Christ, developing [that good work], and perfecting and bringing it to full completion in you." Philippians 1:6

*Helps Word Studies, as found on the internet

Combat Fear in Relationships....Build Bridges of Trust

Do you desire to build trust with a coworker, family member, neighbor or friend?

We've all been a part of conversations where one or both parties shut down or close each other off.  This often comes from fear or perceived threat.   Research and science have shown us that conversations have a neurochemical component.  When there is mistrust or fear, cortisol closes down the part of the brain (prefrontal cortex), that connects with others, is creative, and innovative.  When trust is present in the conversation, oxytocin is produced, which opens up the prefrontal cortex.* 

Fear Puts up Walls and Shuts Down Healthy Conversation

 Judith Glaser states in her book Conversational Intelligence:

“The best antidotes to the brain’s fear are trust, empathy, and support.  When someone shows concern for us, our brain chemistry makes a shift.  We become calmer, we regain our composure ……Because conversations depend on how we think, how we listen, and how we speak, it’s vital that we learn to bring ourselves into a state of trust in order to ensure conversational success.”

 Offer Trust, Empathy and Support

• Listen to the person without judgment
• Ask questions to gain understanding and see their perspective
• Seek a tangible way to support them (listen, offer a meal, help them with a task)

Reflect, Ask & Act:

• When you converse with someone, what puts you in defense or fear mode?

• Think of someone at work, in your family, a neighbor, or friend:

            

-Listen to them without judgment

-Ask Questions to gain an understanding of their view or circumstance

-Seek a tangible way to support them

-Do something together with them

*Conversational Intelligence, by Judith Glaser